I am an adult child of an alcoholic. Recently I learned that the personality of adult children (and grandchildren) of alcoholics are as follows:
……they depend on others’ approval (CHECK)
…….they fear rejection (CHECK)
…….they have an excessive sense of responsibility for people, places and things beyond their control (CHECK)
Isaiah 28:23-29 “Listen and hear my voice;
pay attention and hear what I say.
24 When a farmer plows for planting, does he plow continually?
Does he keep on breaking up and working the soil?
25 When he has leveled the surface,
does he not sow caraway and scatter cumin?
Does he not plant wheat in its place,[c]
barley in its plot,[d]
and spelt in its field?
26 His God instructs him
and teaches him the right way.
27 Caraway is not threshed with a sledge,
nor is the wheel of a cart rolled over cumin;
caraway is beaten out with a rod,
and cumin with a stick.
28 Grain must be ground to make bread;
so one does not go on threshing it forever.
The wheels of a threshing cart may be rolled over it,
but one does not use horses to grind grain.
29 All this also comes from the LORD Almighty,
whose plan is wonderful,
whose wisdom is magnificent.”
I heard the Lord teach me in this verse that the thing that once protected (the husk on the corn) must now be thrashed so that God can get to the ‘juice’…. the very thing (the husk) that was it’s life, it’s protection, now becomes a hindrance to its juice. It must be flailed, beaten, bruised and broken off. In like manner, God has to wean us, thrash us, loose us from the things we had trusted in, so that we will learn to trust in Him.
I understood how the personality and behavior I had learned growing up in an alcoholic family must be taken out of me. We often fight against trials and tribulations, but this is often how God is remolding us. I heard a great example recently:
A piece of steel, the raw material, = worth $20
Put the steel in a fire, beat in and make it into a horseshoe, = worth $40
Put it into a fire, melt it, shape it, form it into a hunting knife, = worth $200
Put it into a fire, melt it, put it through a machine, turn it into stainless steel surgical instruments, = worth $5,000
It has to be tempered and thrased and molded and prepared to get to its final value.
So even though none of LIKE tribulations, I understand why the Bible says to ‘glory in tribulatons’ (Romans 5) because tribulations and suffering produce such awesome things as perseverance, character, hope, love. Bring it on, Jesus.